Welcome to the parenting portion of my blog. For years I’ve been planning to write this for you. I’ve been envisioning a way to connect with other parents, to marvel at this sacred work we are doing, to learn from your experiences and to share what I’ve learned as a Montessori early childhood teacher, yoga teacher, parenting coach and parent.
I think the seeds of my interest in parenting were planted when I was a child. My Mother was fond of telling me that I “didn’t come with an instruction booklet”. And she was only partly right. Yes, this work of parenting comes with the steepest learning curve you will ever encounter. It can be confusing, frustrating, and leave us on our knees – breathless. This “path” of parenting consciously, is one of the most rigorous spiritual paths I know. And that is saying something.
But fear not. There is an instruction booklet. You already own it. It is a living document, and we all need encouragement, support and companions as we work to access it.
The ultimate guide to doing what is right to help your child thrive and your family live in harmony is right in your own heart. This doesn’t mean you naturally have all the skills necessary. It doesn’t mean you have all the information you may want along the way. It doesn’t mean that old ideas and patters won’t need to be updated regularly.
It does mean that you have the knowledge in your own heart to know what is right for your child and family.
This instruction booklet is a living document. You know your child and family better than anyone else. That inner knowing can help you pull the information you need, and find the skills you want to learn, from the vast amount of parenting advice offered today. Imagine this “instructional” as if it were a scrap book and journal combined. You decide what goes into it. Some of it is cut and pasted, some of it is of your own brilliant making. All of it unique to you and your child.
Your own personalized “guide to parenting consciously” is written in the language of intuition. For many of us, we have to learn the language of our own intuition. At the very least we can all improve our “intuition – comprehension” before we can really access this support. In order to hear the subtle whisperings of our hearts, we have to learn the ancient practice of listening deeply. We have to re-learn to honor what we hear there.
Mindfulness practices, like yoga and meditation, can give us huge support to access this work. I have here a kind of two-in-one blog. I have yoga posts and parenting posts. But the secret is that the yoga posts are parenting posts – the yoga gives us support to be at our best with our kids, and to access the intuition we need. Also, the parenting posts are the yoga posts – because parenting is it’s own kind of beautiful yoga.
My greatest hope is to create spaces where people can learn what they need to be to have more love and harmony in their lives. We, as parents, can do so much to help promote our children’s’ well being and to build positive relationships with them. We have the inner guidance that will tell us when that is and isn’t working.
I have benefited from years of learning from children, parents and master teachers about simple ways that can truly help make this path of parenting smoother and more successful. I am excited to share some of what I’ve learned here.
The image I get, when I think about this blog, is that of a well. It will be here for you to come to when you need a fresh drink. And the power of a well, of course, is not just in the water. It is in the connections that happen around the water. So as you come with your questions, your insights, and your unique situations – you add to the thirst quenching power of this place.